I was talking to a friend recently about her boyfriend and she is confused. He isn’t spending as much time with her as he used to. He isn’t calling, texting, or making plans to spend time with her as often he used to.

She made the comment, “I deserve better than this.” I agreed.

So, she is refocusing on the people and activities that make her happy. Her boyfriend will either step up or he won’t. She’ll talk with him about how she is feeling and her needs. And then his actions (not words) will be her’s to access and respond to.

I’ve been reflecting on the phrase “you deserve better.” It is a signal. If you think it, you do. Deserve better - that is.

It applies in work situations as well as personal relationships.

It took me a long time to recognize that my feelings are an indicator of my needs being met or unmet. And it wasn’t until I discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) that I learned how to effectively name my feelings and my needs.

The Feelings & Emotions Wheel image is a great way to find words to describe your feelings. But the real linchpin in the process of living a great life is knowing how to ask for what you need. Here is a link to a Values / Need Inventory. (LINK: https://prosperconsultingllc.com/compassionate-communication-nvc-practice)

And if you are interested in learning more, let’s talk.

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